Yet as children, all of us had someone as an example. The parent, their friend or a school teacher – some people who especially inspired us. As we grew up, the necessity for having a role model did not fade away completely. Certainly, we have a friend, colleague, or sports instructor who still looks like an example to us – a person that induces us to change for the better and work on our traits. The fact that we have grown up does not dismiss the necessity of having a role model.
It would be dishonest to assume that we strive only to a positive influence. Our environment certainly includes several role anti-models, or people we would like not to resemble. Perhaps, our authoritarian boss makes working environment too stressful, which gives a way to rejection. Or probably, we have a friend who is a party animal while we are not. As we go clubbing late before a hard working day, we anticipate our future regret. And we do not approve of the behavior of our anti-model. But as we are friends, there is a peer pressure that makes us act in the way we would never do on our own.
Having both positive and negative role model in view is important as we usually strive to perfection. Looking at the people we like and dislike induces us to change our behavior to be more likable to other people (in the first place) and, of course, to ourselves. Both positive and negative examples work pedagogically even if we consider ourselves quite mature personalities.
There are no clearly-cut explanations for why an individual becomes a criminal. We suspect that violence in a family is one of many contributing factors, but we cannot guarantee that every child from a cruel family is destined to becoming an adult criminal. Family issues, mental specifics, socioeconomic environment, and peer pressure are the major factors that explain cruelty, and people with criminal inclination are subject to several or all of them.
All of the risk factors are quite predictable. As scientists have not found any particular genes that cause criminal behavior, the pressure of social environment comes in the spotlight. Poverty and negative family impacts usually come hand in hand, and criminologist may not even bother searching for more reasons behind one’s criminal nature. And that is how the surface factors mislead criminologists.
Another common factor widely associated with crime is a mental illness. Though the total number of people with mental illness is about 20 percent all over the US, they make up a majority of inmates in state and federal prisons. Though so many people with depression or dementia are more dangerous to themselves than to the society, the correlation between psychotic conditions and crime is undeniable.
Juvenile delinquency often comes as a result of peer pressure. Children are especially susceptible to provocations and tend to do before they think. It is not a rare case when parents of entirely healthy, disciplined, and kind children are reported that their child has been involved in some petty crime. Certainly, the peer pressure stimulates crime when no other factors can cause it.
As parents find the performance of their children totally different in public and private schools, so think teachers about their career prospects in different educational structures. Private schools look much more appealing with their environment, curricula, and schedules than public schools with children from the disadvantaged background, overload, and principal’s pressure. However, those who once applied to both types know that different schools are also very alike. You have to work like an enthusiast without the slightest need for personal life in both of them. But still, every school has its own specifics that form different demands from their staff.
Though the public school environment causes much distress to teachers, private establishments are not a bed of roses either. State schools require constant multitasking for a teacher to create dozens of lesson plans, but in private schools teachers stand under the very close watch of the parents. People who pay considerable sums for the education of their children give no excuse for staff that is not enough efficient. Besides, private schools may also require teachers to be competent in sports and arts that are an essential part of the curriculum.
We can hardly make public school teachers less dedicated just because they feel so many challenges to effective functioning – just on the contrary. If a state school teacher does not run away after years of work, they are very committed to their occupation indeed. The problem is that bureaucracy, plenty of task, huge classrooms, and lack of time to teach make educators in public school inefficient. Many of them struggle to keep up with tasks in their free time and eventually give up teaching. Private schools make more comfortable conditions for teachers to work with students in the first place.
A great part of their day, students spend interacting in their school environment. Children do not enjoy education equally, and each of them gives a different value to their daily companions. This directly determines the impact of the school on their personality formation. Having different types of temperaments, some students are easier to influence than another, but, in general, all children are to the greater extent shaped by their school culture.
School leaders surely set new trends, but these people are not teachers. Students are much more susceptible to the peer’s authority that often creates problems for teachers. The latter have an extremely limited influence on the youth that is limited to a couple of obedient individuals. The rest of students prefer to take a rebellious stand to show that the teacher’s approach to influencing students is much outdated. On the other hand, rebellious mood is facilitated by the teacher’s behavior.
Teachers temperament predetermines the attitude of students. Lenient and timid educators allow students trespass and humiliate themselves emotionally, while tough uncompromising educators leave no room to insults. Even more, authoritarian teachers may suppress phlegmatic students. Sensitive persons and introverts may take an authoritarian style as an insult to their autonomy in the classroom, which inevitably poisons the learning environment. In practice, aggressive teaching methods may improve the discipline and performance to some extent, but they cause emotional distress to those who are never asked to keep silence.
During their teenage years, students and their characters are little influenced by teachers in particular. But on the larger scale, the school with its connections and peer culture shapes children with their perspectives and choices.
Family environment influences child’s performance more than parents can imagine. In a friendly family, adults give the child their support and a sound motivation. But family can also discourage from learning with a constant dissatisfaction and rising demands. This is the case with perfectionist parents who suppose that the child once will be grateful for years of stress and poisoned childhood. Family involvement is a must in education, but a wrong interpretation does harm to students who stand under the double pressure day to day.
Since their early years, children search for parental approval. However brilliant they performed, children do not feel contentment without the approval of the most important people. Especially in the primary and secondary school, parents shall recognize and cherish positive results of children to encourage them to proceed with learning. Later on, they can become more critical but only if the child performs far below their abilities. As a rule, children get enough critical evaluation from school teachers, and listening to the insults of parents at home can be especially disappointing. Children shall be loved for who they are, but many parents still think it would be better if they try to rise a superchild with incredible skills.
A basic family involvement includes attention, encouragement, recognition, and support. In some cases, parents can hire a tutor or ask for extra classes from their school teacher. Sometimes, parents can help kids to complete tasks themselves without any tutors. Every attentive parent can figure out whether the child needs more of their involvement or it will be redundant. Though family shall always stay interested in child’s performance, it is also important not to trespass and put extra academic pressure.
Bullying is an inevitable part of a school life because of one unchangeable condition – all children are different. And not all of them can control their emotions and behavior in the peer environment where they can possibly become leaders. So, children who think they are superior to others allow themselves to insult timid kids who are usually antisocial, scared, and unconfident. Therefore, bullies target those who allow being bullied revealing their weakness and fear. But bullying is an act of aggression, in the first place, and it cannot be justified by any excuse.
It would be fair to make parents responsible for the social behavior of their children. After all, bullying frequently results from violence in the family or child abuse. The problem is that parents will never suspect that their child is a bully unless they see them among the peers. Teachers and staff are much more likely to discover a bully among students. Researchers claim that zero-tolerance policies do not work, therefore, principals must find the way to handle cases of bullying without expelling kids.
It is important that parents and teachers combined their efforts to eliminate bullying. In case if parents of bullies refuse to recognize the behavior of their kids, schools shall apply some punishment. Special prevention groups shall assist teachers to improve the climate in groups. Work in groups is very important because bullies rarely act on their own. They have the courage to attack if there is a clique of adherents behind their backs.
Arguing whether Google has made us smart or stupid, we can agree on one thing – getting information before search engines evolved was far more challenging than it is now. Once a person should search through archives or wander among the stacks of books in the library to get information on a specific topic, and now all they need is to launch web-browser and type keywords there. Certainly, students do not have to cram over the books all nights through to complete their papers. For someone, it is enough merely to download a suitable paper and proceed with a little plagiarism. But do all of us turn that lazy when it comes to work or study on the internet?
Obviously, we have an excess of information these days, and everyone shall choose the way to process it. Even with numerous sources of information available here and now, we work hard applying it to our own research and comparing those sources. And there is nothing wrong with the fact that we can spare plenty of time for other things. Being free to have fun with friends, join clubs, or find extra hobbies is no laziness.
The only thing triggered by search engines is procrastination. With Google, people have a perfect chance to escape from their mundane issues and engage in something more interesting. In this respect, the internet is almost addictive. But all in all, responsible using of search engines has not done any harm yet.
Families take adoption as a challenge because the process of raising a strange child as a family member is very responsible and complicated. And the farther it goes, the more fragile are relations between the child and the family. Parents remember the reason why they have adopted a child, and the child knows that these people are not their true parents. And this awareness provides a lasting sense that something is not right. Adoptive parents are scared of the child leaving as they mature, and the child eventually does search for their biological parents. There is a huge risk that the interests of adoptive children will move apart from that of their parents once.
For some reason, there is a belief that children somehow betray their adoptive parents when start searching their biological family. Under the close adoption, bio parents have no access to information on the child that has not come of age. Nevertheless, more than 90 percent of adoptees want to know their family and the same many mothers want to be found. On the one hand, adoptive parents stand like a white elephant to their child. On the other hand, children raised with love and tenderness of their adoptive parents will always stay loyal to these people who are not their actual parents. There is not such thing as ingratitude of children in adoptive families but there can be odd and cold relations between the members.
Of course, children should know their biological parents. Whether they target at the reunion or medical history, family bonds cannot be taken away from people. And families perfectly understand that yet during the adoption.
Taking control over our life is a key condition to feel confident. Planning our business and free time, we form expectations about the future that seems comfortable and favorable to us. Some people prefer planning events in advance, as far as years from now. On the one hand, such foresight indicates about person’s ambitions and life goals. If we plan something, we have the idea how to get it. On the other hand, large-scale long-term plans do not always work out. We can plan as much as we want, but we also can simply change our mind and back up from all our plans.
Planning is an essential thing when we need to organize our activity in the short-time prospect. If we do not make some plans for tomorrow or the next couple of weeks, we will probably procrastinate until we find something meaningful to do. The planning prospect greatly depends on one’s occupation – managers have to plan much more in advance as they work on long-term goals as well. But in general, planning for a distant future is not as positive as it seems.
Some of our plans may be surreal and demand much more than being put on the schedule. If they do not work out, we have a clear sense of failure even despite nothing critical has happened. If we draw unrealistic beautiful pictures in our mind, it would be very painful to part with them. We shall remember that there are other people and external circumstances in the world that regularly change. And there is no reason to blame oneself for canceling old plans when there are more urgent things to do.
Education is neither a gift nor a privilege – it is a right of every single person. Still, the National Institute of Literacy revealed that about 32 million Americans could not read in 2013. It means that more than 10 percent of people do not possess basic skills necessary to take a job and engage in social interaction. Facilitating education is as important as providing adequate health care services and securing safety for people in their own homes. The illiterate part of the community must have a chance to get some basic education in a friendly atmosphere free of charge.
Literacy tutors work at numerous education centers across the country. They are mainly volunteers devoting their time to teach other adults reading and writing skills. The demand is always high, especially when there are so many immigrants. Actually, every educated person can become a literacy volunteer without any additional training. Tutors usually help multiple categories of people. They can work with adults, children, or even immigrants if they like.
As a matter of fact, there are many people in local communities who wish to have a basic education. The problem is they do not realize that they are always eligible for getting it. For this reason, education centers shall conduct basic advertising to let people know that they exist and are ready to help. It works both ways – engages learners and attracts volunteers to cooperation.